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As we reached towards Valentine’s day we were thinking about how we can build long-lasting sustainable and meaningful relationships. Because it is very important to feel loved, respected and heard.
Relationships, beautiful, messy, and occasionally baffling. In a world where "forever" sometimes feels like it lasts just a couple of Instagram stories, the idea of building a relationship that actually lasts can seem like chasing a unicorn. But sustainable love isn’t a mythical creature, it’s about rolling up your sleeves, putting in the work, and growing together in a way that doesn’t fizzle out when the honeymoon phase does. Here’s how to make your love life as enduring as you wish to be.
Emotional Intelligence: Your Relationship Superpower
First things first: emotional intelligence is like the Wi-Fi of relationships. Without it, nothing really works. Being emotionally intelligent means understanding your own feelings (so you don’t explode over who left the cap off the toothpaste) and tuning into your partner’s emotions. It’s about showing empathy, not just sympathy, and creating a space where both of you feel safe enough to be your beautifully imperfect selves. Think of it as the glue that keeps things from falling apart when life gets chaotic.
Say What You Feel: Your Relationship Will Thank You
Let’s face it: even the best relationships can’t survive without communication. And no, passive-aggressively saying, “I’m fine” doesn’t count. Real communication means talking and most importantly listening. It’s asking how their day went and actually caring about the answer, even if it involves a detailed play-by-play of office stuff. It still means you are sharing a moment. And of course most importantly, clear, honest chats about dreams, fears, and yes, even those annoying habits, are what help relationships thrive. A good rule of thumb? Talk it out before it turns into a drama fit for a reality show.
Shared Values: The Relationship GPS
You know those couples who seem so in sync it’s like they’re reading each other’s minds? Chances are, they’re aligned on the big stuff. Shared values are like a GPS for your relationship, they make sure you’re both heading in the same direction. Whether it’s agreeing on how to handle money, family plans, or even what to binge-watch next, finding common ground keeps things smooth. And if one of you changes course? That’s okay too, mutual growth is part of the deal. Just make sure you’re learning and evolving together, not apart.
Love Like You’re Saving the Planet
Here’s a fun twist: relationships are a lot like ecosystems. If you’re not careful, they can end up polluted with grudges, unresolved arguments, and unmet expectations. Sustainable love is about cutting down on that “relational waste.” Skip the petty fights, recycle your apologies when needed, and focus on behaviors that actually make each other happy. Basically, treat your love like you’d treat the planet: nurture it, invest in it, and don’t litter it with unnecessary drama.
Intimacy: More Than Just the Cliches
Let’s talk about intimacy, beyond just holding hands in public or grand romantic gestures. It’s the little things that keep relationships thriving: checking in, sharing inside jokes, or even a random “thinking of you” text or even emojis, or inside cute words that only you two know. These small but meaningful moments are the fuel that keeps the love engine running. And sure, grand romantic gestures are nice, but it’s the consistent affection and shared experiences that make love sustainable.
It’s a Journey, Not a Destination
Here’s the thing: no relationship is sunshine and rainbows 24/7. Sustainable love is about commitment—not the dramatic kind where you declare undying loyalty with a big gesture, but the everyday kind. It’s about choosing your partner, again and again, even when they’re snoring like a freight train or asking the same question three times in a row. It’s recognizing that challenges will come and that your relationship is worth weathering the storms for.
Sustainable love doesn’t mean perfection, it means embracing the quirks, celebrating the growth, and putting in the effort to keep your connection alive. It’s about making your relationship a place where both of you can thrive, not just survive. So, here’s to love that lasts: honest, messy, beautiful, and, most importantly, yours to create! Whoever you want to create it with!
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Forbes: A psychologist shares 4 love styles found in strong marriages
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Searching That Bright Life: Sustainable Love: Building Healthy Relationships
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https://medium.com/@ironmindspeech/building-sustainable-relationships-a-path-to-lasting-love-d2dfcf8f7c55
https://www.regain.us/advice/love/enduring-love-ingredients-for-a-relationship-that-lasts/